Local Customs and Etiquette

Here is a clear overview of the most important local customs and etiquette in our Persian community:

Taarof

This is our elaborate system of polite insistence. When someone offers you food, a seat, a gift, or help, you are expected to refuse at least once or twice out of modesty. The other person will insist again, and only then do you accept. It is considered rude to accept immediately or to refuse too firmly.

Greeting and respect for elders

We always greet older people first. Younger people stand when elders enter a room. Handshakes are common, and among people of the same gender we often exchange light cheek kisses. Showing deference through words and body language is very important.

Removing shoes at the door

It is expected and polite to take off your shoes when entering someone’s home. Leave them neatly at the entrance so the carpets and floors stay clean.

Hospitality and offering tea

Guests are immediately offered tea, sweets, and food. Refusing the first offer is normal (part of taarof), but eventually accepting shows good manners. Hosts take pride in making guests feel completely welcome.

Dining etiquette

We usually share food from common dishes. Wait for the eldest person at the table to begin eating. Bread is treated with respect and should never be wasted. Complimenting the host on the food is expected and appreciated.

These customs are still widely practiced in daily life, both in Iran and in Persian communities abroad. They emphasize respect, hospitality, and social harmony.